There is no set time table for how long grief will last or how you will feel at any particular time on your journey. Living with loss is different for everyone and for most, grief never fully disappears, but there are ways to cope and tools to help you let go of your emotional pain.
I feel that many of us do not realize the amount of grief and loss that Veterans carry around with them. They experience so much loss especially if the person serves in many wars.And if they do not deal with their loss, overtime it piles up and they drag around unresolved grief, that grief those men and women carry can weigh heavy on their hearts and minds.
When someone dies, grief begins. When grieving someone who's life is ruled by addictive behavior, your world can be full of ups and downs and filled with so many overwhelming emotions, and most of the time, the family struggles right along with the addict.
Some of us have become very good at holding onto put pain, mainly because we've carried it since childhood. And many can't let go of their emotional pain because they haven't accepted things that have happened in the past and without acceptance, there is no healing journey.
Death can bring out the best and the worst in families, and family dysfunction is a real thing, and it happens..lot! Estrangement, dysfunction, and conflict are significant losses that are not clearly understood by our society, but with them they bring an overwhelming amount of grief.
Commitment is not a mere wish or a promise that can be broken, it's about staying true to yourself and staying committed to your goal. A commitment can be about taking care of yourself and to keep moving forward in life even when it feels hard. So why not, commit to YOU!
If you've listened to any of my podcasts, you'll often hear me say that "every relationship is unique, and we all have our own unique experience with grief." Comparing ourselves to others in any way is a recipe for unhappiness because, comparing never helps, it only hurts.
For some people they may not experience their grief the way they thought they would, or, they do not acknowledge their loss and show no signs of grief. And there are many reasons why people do not experience an emotional reaction when someone dies or they lose something significant to them. Everyone's grief is unique!
It's not always easy to make changes especially when dealing with emotional loss. When times are tough and some of us are feeling chipped and scared, we don't seem to realize that we actually have very few useful and valuable habits to help us manage our pain and loss.
Disenfranchised grief is often known as hidden grief. It's grief that goes unacknowledged or validated by many, it can be minimized or not understood and it makes a griever feel unsupported by family, friends, even society and they end up feeling like their grief is unworthy.
Write something about yourself. No need to be fancy, just an overview.