n the beginning of the adoption process, most of the emphasis is focused on the positivity and beauty and that's wonderful. The fact is, as much as adoption contains a great deal of hope, it can also contain a large amount of loss and sadness.
Most of us spend a lot of time at the workplace surrounded by people, some might be good friends and others.. not so much. When grief knocks at your door and you have to work, it can become very uncomfortable for you, and your coworkers. Sadly, most businesses handle the reality of death very poorly.
We identify ourselves with the stories we tell ourselves, the labels we place upon ourselves, and the roles we undertake defining who we are by what we do for a living, are we married, how much money do we have in the bank. Yet, we don't always have a conscious awareness of our identity until, something changes in our life.
Death does not create one single ripple in one's life. From that primary loss it creates multiple losses, though we often are engulfed in the grief of losing the person we loved and cared about so much. Our grief is also the pain of other losses that are a result of the death, and this ripple effect is known as secondary loss.
What can we do when lightning strikes twice, maybe three times or more. Grieving multiple losses is far more common than you might imagine and guaranteed, over a lifetime we will all experience many losses, it's just a part of life. The best thing we can do, is deal with each loss as it happens because if we don't and another loss occurs, we can end up in grief overload.
Feelings of guilt can manifest itself in a multitude of ways, it can bring up feelings of regret, shame, anger, and doubt, as well as feelings of failure, inadequacy, and unworthiness.These feelings if left, can eventually impact your physical health and we don't want that.
After experiencing a major loss, life can feel uncertain and uncertainty can feel scary. Grief feels like fear because it can leave us reeling in uncertainty and when the worst happens to us and and the uncertainty kicks in, we start to question ourselves as life feels overwhelming and fear keeps us stuck.
This is our new and special end of the month episode called Love Notes. It's where you can write to a loved one as though they are still alive and tell them everything you appreciate about them. It's for any loss that you might have experienced be it, death, loss of a pet, loss of a job, aging, moving, abuse, miscarriage, or any other loss that still causes you pain when you think about it. Writing when we've experienced loss can help us to cope with our grief. This project is all about LOVE.
Sometimes people struggle with knowing how to grieve properly and how to share that with others in openness and vulnerability. When they struggle, freedom from emotional pain can feel far, far away, as life is different and they feel like they'll never find happiness again.
When your grieving the holidays can be especially difficult to face. Grief is the normal and natural response to the loss of someone or something important to you, and it can happen with any type of loss. This year has been hard for us all and coronavirus had certainly created a new reality for everyone.
Write something about yourself. No need to be fancy, just an overview.