Leaving an abusive relationship can bring up such conflicting feelings for so many people, The more dysfunctional the relationship the more complicated the grief.
If you have parents that have not responded to your emotions as a child, you learn that your emotional needs are irrelevant and should be avoided. Emotional neglect is not the same as emotional abuse, it’s easier to disguise. However, it has the ability to have a long lasting impact on a person.
Grief is the normal and natural response to any major change that happens in our life. When grief is caused by a sudden and unexpected death, then those who are left behind are often filled with an enormous amount of unfinished and incomplete business in that emotional relationship.
When I spoke with some young people about climate change, they said that they "really worry about their futures and living on a hotter planet due to the increased greenhouse emissions and global warming." They feel hopeless and scared about their futures, and that stress and worry is taking it's toll on their mental health.
Those important days and events are very powerful reminders that someone special is missing from your life. Valentine's Day like birthdays, anniversaries, and holidays, can be one of those days that stir up so much emotional pain for you.
Grieving the loss of addiction is a very common experience and it's also one that goes unacknowledged. By understanding and accepting this process of grieving can really help with recovery.
When financial loss comes, it can change many things. You may find your hopes, dreams, and expectations, that you once had for your future, have all been shattered. And now you find yourself grieving.
In the years that lead up to retirement many people spend a lot of time and energy making sure that they are physically and financially secure. When retirement comes, many find it very stressful and sometimes depressing.
Reaching out and talking about your loss allows you to feel and process those feelings in a healthy and loving way. Then you can begin to see that there can be a brighter future, one that’s not filled with emotional pain.
Recently I helped a client who had lost her son, she told me that she was horrified when her friends and family would say things to her like, "You can always have more children" or "At least you have other children." Intellectually yes it's true but, grief is an emotion and many people just don't know what to say to someone who is grieving.